What do women want?

Boy, that is a loaded question.  It depends on what you’re asking us about.  What do we want in a car? A piece of jewelry? Our career? We will give you many different answers to the same questions.  Why? Because sometimes, we don’t even know what we want.  Our wants and needs change as we age, mature, and experience life.  What we thought we MIGHT want as a teenager, is nowhere near what we want in our 30’s.  Especially when it comes to men.  Now that’s the age-old question.  What do women want from men?

I’ll tell you, from my perspective, what women want.  We want a man who is confident without being cocky.  He isn’t insecure.  One who isn’t afraid to cry, but not whiney.  A man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to go after it.  We want a man who has goals and ambitions in life but isn’t just a dreamer.  He needs to be strong but also have a soft side.  Manly and macho but also sensitive.  He should be a hard worker but not a workaholic.  He loves children, elderly people, and his Mama.  He’s a Mama’s boy, but without the umbilical still attached.  He is kind to animals.  He isn’t afraid to speak his mind or his opinions, but he’s not overbearing and controlling.  He can express his hurt and anger without screaming, name-calling, cursing, or hitting.  He NEVER abuses women or children in any way.  He isn’t a drunk or an addict.  He cares about his appearance without being narcissistic.  He can be naughty and/or nice at the appropriate times.  He understands that women are complicated creatures.  We need nurturing, a challenge, and a sense of humor.  He must also be patient.  He must have a sense of humor and be able to laugh at himself as well as the world around him.  He is a “fix-it” kind of guy, but knows when “fixing” isn’t helpful.  Sometimes when we cry, we just want to be held.  There’s nothing to “fix.”  Just let us cry and know that you’re there for us.  Please take notes, fellas.    If he is unsure of what HE wants, then he’ll never figure out what women want. The most important traits in a man: Honesty, integrity, sincerity, and respect. Period.

A couple of points that I want to expand on: patience and challenge.  When I say that women need a challenge, I don’t mean that we view men a something we need to mold, shape, and change.  Or at least I don’t.  I mean that we need someone to challenge our wit, sense of humor, and intellect.  Without a challenge, we become bored.  If you’re a “yes man” or a “doormat” we will bore with you even quicker.  Have an opinion.  Know what you like, what you want, and what you need.  As for patience, this one should be a no-brainer, but apparently it’s not.  Men need to have patience with women. As I said, sometimes we just don’t know what we want yet.  We may change our minds many times about things.  If a man wants to hang on for the ride, then he needs to step up to the plate and make sure she knows that he’s worth it.  If he doesn’t make it known that he’s serious, that he wants to be with her, that he is going to do what it takes to be with her, then she may assume the opposite and move on.  Another thing about women that men should be patient about is our moods.  Yes, we are complicated, hormonal, emotional beings.  Learn to live with it, or stay single.  A lot of our reaction is centered around your actions, or lack thereof.  If you ask stupid questions, you will get an appropriate response depending on the level of her exasperation with you.  Just sayin’.

Bottom line: women are complicated.  Figure out what YOU want, guys, and then go after it.  If you’re willing to put in the effort, find the right woman for you, and hang on for the ride, then she will make it all worthwhile. On the flip-side though, if you find a woman who truly doesn’t know what she wants, and she’s flaky, then refer back to my comment about what YOU want, fellas.

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1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Clay
    Oct 03, 2012 @ 22:02:03

    Women are complicated creatures which men will never understand. With that being said, if the woman is worth it, a man won’t be afraid to make changes in his life to make the relationship work. The right woman makes life worth living.

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